One of the hardest things to do in life is to be completely honest with yourself. It's so pain staking and difficult because we hate to answer the questions we fear to ask ourselves. What do we do when a loved one dies? Am I really good enough for that promotion? Does that special someone feel the same way about me? These are all questions we hate to ask because most of us are afraid of the negative answer. If the answer is "be lost," "no," or "really really no" then we feel like our existence has been obliterated. We feel like the framework upon which we've built the foundation of our lives is literally eroding beneath us and there is nothing we can do. It's life threatening. It's scary.
So, how do we ask ourselves the hard questions?
We muster up all the courage and confidence possible, we breathe deep, exhale, and commit to asking what scares us most. When the answer comes, either from inside ourselves or externally from the great unknown, it comes. What I mean by that is the answer already exists. What will happen will happen no matter the amount we worry, the sorrow we feel, or the pity we indulge in. What will happen will happen. We're afraid to ask the hard questions because we're afraid of the negative hard answers. Pity the man who forgets that a coin is two sided. There's a positive that can answer our questions, there could be a light at the end of the tunnel. To ask ourselves things we fear we must employ courage, plan for misery, and hope for bliss.
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